In this video, I'm going to tell you if you're
likely to get divorced, or not. I know it sounds pretty wild. There's a new study that just came out that's
incredible. It flipped everything that people thought
about what contributes to divorce on its head, so let's talk about it. There's a doctor named Jessica Salvatore,
and she conducted a study. And what she wanted to find is what, basically,
causes people to get divorced, what is indicative, what's something that you can look at that
will tell you if someone is likely to get divorced, or not, in their lifetime. So, what she did is she took 20,000 adopted
kids. And these are kids that were given up almost
immediately after they were born, so there was no environmental influence from their
genetic family.

So, they didn't experience any what they call
"disillusion" from their biological parents' marriage, okay? What they found was that the adoptees tended
to resemble their biological parents, who contributed genes to the adoptees, and not
their adopted parents who contributed the rearing environment. So, from this pattern of facts, we can infer
that it's genes that contribute to the transmission of divorce from parents' children, as opposed
to the rearing environment. Isn't that crazy? People used to always think, "It's the environment." You know, "They saw our parents go through
a breakup." Actually, the interviewer next says, "Most
of us think the reason is, that it would run in families, is because the children saw their
parents go through a really tough time, so it's more of an environmental thing.

And she says, "Well, that's exactly what we
thought." But the confounding factor, the biggest factor
that these previous studies haven't really addressed is that divorcing parents, not only
are giving a divorced environment to the children, but they also contribute the genes. So people were looking in the wrong direction. The dude then asks, "If genetics play a role
in divorce, then how does that fit into other factors, because clearly, there has to be
some environmental impact." And I thought, "This is kind of funny." She accepts that. But listen to how she closes it here. She says, "Absolutely, the environment's important. Our study, by no means, suggests that genes
are the only factor that are responsible for divorce. It's just part of the picture, and that appears
to be the primary explanation for why divorce runs from parents to children." Think about that! That's crazy! So, how can you use this in your own life? Let's look at this realistically. You just need to know that if your parents
were divorced, there is a good chance that you are more likely, you are more genetically
predisposed, to get divorced than other people.

I mean, don't try to candy-coat it and say,
"Well, oh, no, but this …" No. These are the facts, they're the truth. But, I don't think it's all sad, because we
talk about, like, a 50% divorce rate in this country. But if you look at so many marriages, it's
just shocking how poorly thought-out they are. It's like the first person that they significantly
dated for over three months, they end up marrying.

They don't talk about anything important. They don't talk about how they're going to
raise their kids, or spend the money. "Wait a minute, Mary! You're telling me you want to raise this boy
vegan and home-school him?" … while the dude wanted to send him to public
schools the week after he was born, and to daycare. I truly think that by doing a little bit of
due diligence, and spending your time dating multiple people so you can find out what you
really are compatible with, asking the right questions, going into a marriage with your
eyes wide open, so you can have a realistic perspective about what it's going to be like,
I think you can do much better, even than someone who is potentially genetically predisposed
to get divorced.

So, I think it's important that we understand
this, and important how we get out in front of it, and give ourselves the best chance
of not getting divorced. I don't think anyone goes into a marriage
thinking, "Aah, maybe we'll get divorced, maybe we won't." So, you can have the best chance of succeeding. Now, have you seen this video, right here,
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